Breaking Barrier 3

Have you ever asked your self “why cant he just support me and watch the kids so I can work out” or “why is it every time I am trying to eat healthy someone makes my favorite treats?” Your not alone.

For along time I had asked my self those same questions while feeling defeated when standing on the scale and not seeing results.  

When I started my weight loss journey a nutritionist said to me.  How can my husband or friends support me if I cant help myself? At first I was annoyed at her comment and then she explained.  

“In order for someone to support you fully they need to have clear direction.  If you don’t have clear direction on what your goals are and how you plan to achieve them, How do you expect them to hold you accountable.”

That afternoon I went home and wrote out why I was unhappy with my self, what I wanted to change, why I wanted to change it and tried to make a plan the best way I knew how.  

I shared it with my family and close friends explaining that if they saw me straying from my plans they needed to keep me accountable.  All of a sudden I had a support system I never had.

The solution was communicating my problem, explaining my position, presenting my game plan then asking for help and accountability.  This showed my friends and family I was serious and they understood how they could help. See our friends and family want to help they just need clear direction on what that will look like for you.  

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Lastly, if we feel our support failed us.   That does not give us permission to fail our selves.  We have chosen to trade the unhealthy habits for healthy ones.   So we need to commit to the process regardless of who is cheering us on. We need to chose perseverance and keep going no matter how hard it gets.  

So, stay focused, stay committed, and stay connected.

See you next week