Ambivalence

Welcome back. I hope you all had a great week.

Let’s get right to it; this week, we are going over the barrier of ambivalence.

Webster defines ambivalence as a “continual fluctuation (as between one thing and its opposite).” Or “Uncertainty as to which approach to follow.”

I found that super interesting because I never realized how big a role ambivalence had in how we chose to change poor habits and develop better ones.

This week I was thinking a lot about this barrier. I listened to women speaking while I was out shopping, at the gym, and even at family events.  Women are unhappy with where their health has gotten but yet are stuck.

I heard things like, “I would love to work out and get back into shape, but my kids have practice.”

“I wish I could lose this weight, but I don’t want to give up my relaxing evenings.”

“The only way I will get to a gym is early in the morning…I am much too busy during the day, and I am not a morning person.”  

As I reflected on some of these statements, I realized I had said a few of them myself.  I finally broke that barrier when I decided to commit to what I wanted. It was then I was able to achieve my goals.

With commitment, there is no fluctuation because there is a reason for your decision. So why are you trying to lose weight or make lifestyle changes?

What is the real motivation that is driving you? Once you have figured that out, it’s time to commit to change. 

Everyone’s journey will look different. Some can do this alone; others need a community and some need coaching.  No matter how your journey goes, this principle applies. To succeed in what you set out to do, you need to commit to the process and create a plan.  Once you have a plan, work the plan, and you will see results. If you do not commit, it’s easy to waver back and forth and find other reasons to prevent you from what you want until you finally have had enough of where you are and take action.